Affirmation Mondays 357 ~ In complex times we are going to have complex emotions…

“In complex times we are going to have complex emotions”  ~ Ella Patrice

Emotions aren’t felt one at a time they are felt simultaneously in a variety of ways…

“In complex times we are going to have complex emotions”

There is a paradigm shifting happening that we are in the weird, chaotic throes of. Due to this, this holiday season is going to be one filled with a wide variety of deep and deeply complex emotions.

That in mind, it must be said that it’s possible to feel a wide variety of emotions all at once. Emotions are so wonderfully complex and they have no right or wrong way of being, they just are. You are so free to feel, and feel deeply, every single emotion you have. These are your emotions and they are for only you to feel, not for anyone else to feel or to tell you how to feel and experience them.

Back to the point, despite the typical notion that it’s impossible to be, say, thankful and miserable at the same time, it’s actually very, incredibly possible to feel both (or even more emotions) simultaneously. Emotions all arise from the same source within us, and since we humans are so incredibly complex, why wouldn’t our emotions be?

So in complex times, I feel we are going to have complex emotions. We’re going to feel deeply and messily and vibrantly. The longer those times go on the more emotions are going to overlap and bleed together. It becomes so easily overwhelming and many end up numbing out as a defense. The more you force emotions and try to tune out other emotions the quicker you burn out. Burning out on your own emotions is the absolute worst and yet so many of us simply live with it in order to keep on keeping on.

Bleak, I know, but here’s the thing – each and every single one of us is actually capable of healing our emotional burn out. It takes time and effort, sure, but aren’t you worth it? I certainly think you are!

You can start by simply taking a moment to acknowledge your emotions. You only have to acknowledge them as deeply as you feel comfortable with. It can be by just taking a few moments to tell yourself that it’s okay to feel things and have emotions – they are your feelings and emotions and your feelings and emotions to cherish, love, and even hate (more emotions, yay!). You can feel any number of emotions all at once – joyous and disgruntled and upset and giggly and blithe and melancholy. You can also be angry, upset, hurt, etc and that doesn’t mean you are a bad person.

I seriously can’t stress this enough – You can feel anything and that does not mean you are a good or bad person. It’s only if you act on those emotions and do anything that is not consensual that you have a problem. Even if all you do is act out verbally, if the person you lash out at didn’t consent to be on the receiving end of it, it’s non-consensual. It’s just basic harm none, do (and feel) as you will.

I know I’ve already been having many moments where I am feeling so deeply grateful and so powerfully low and sad. Instead of feeling ashamed for being thankful but still upset (like some kind of spoiled brat who always wants more as “society” would encourage to help keep me demure…but I digress) I choose to acknowledge my emotions as they are. I keep taking a few moments to check in with myself and how I’m feeling and what emotions I’m feeling. I take note if something feels like it goes deeper and needs tending to and then I make the time when I am able to really feel out what needs it. Sometimes I cry, sometimes I scream into a pillow, other times I just need a hug or a soft place to just be held and feel safe (hello bathtub). My emotions and needs vary, but the more I do it, the more I feel in tune with myself and more capable of showing up where and how I’m needed like the whimsical badass I am. This is my daily resistance to those who would condemn anyone who dares to not follow a broken program.

This holiday season, take time to acknowledge your emotions and know that you are such a good person and your emotions alone could never make you a bad one. May you find some ease, some softness, and such a warm love of yourself!

Take care and just know that you are not alone.

Namaste ~ Ella

~ Affirmation Mondays are positive words of wisdom, insight and joy to add a bit of cheer to the start of your week and any day you need a bit of a pick-me-up! For even more inspiration please check out my Affirmation Mondays Pinterest Board and my Quote-spirational Board!

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