The Christmas season is one of wonder, joy, magic, and just simple cozy delight. There is so much to be thankful for, so much to indulge in and celebrate and share with others. Or, at least, that’s how I like to see it.
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Whether one celebrates or observes Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanza, Yule, Winter Solstice, Ramadan, or Omisoka, this is a season filled with celebrations, cheer, and all sorts of reflections and reminders of goodness
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December is a month of lights, love, and inner warmth. Autumn winds down and just as the first bitter touches of Winter begin to take hold, something magical fills the very air. It a magic that’s sparked by the pure human born kindness and love that pours out and wraps it’s arms around the sleeping world (Well, sleeping in the Northern Hemisphere and wide-awake wonder in the Southern Hemisphere!).
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While many may credit the spirits of the Holiday seasons, I like to think of it as a reminder of what we all of us hold inside. There is a certain something in the air that does make everything seems softer, kinder, and all the more beautiful for it. Merry, merry December!
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“You are a mess.” – this is something I think too many of us have been told since we were little. Told to the point that we’ve internalized it as the truth. As our own truth. That is awful. To think and believe that we are a mess. That how we feel, how we think, how we innately are, is messy and something we should be ashamed, embarrassed, and discomforted by. Why? Feelings are natural and you and I are not a mess for having and expressing them.
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You and I are feeling people who exist in a messy world. It is not us who are the mess, it is actually the world. And no, this is not a case of it’s the world that is the problem, not me. By pointing out the fact that the world is messy we are reminding ourselves that it is often chaotic, topsy-turvey, unsettled and there are many misunderstandings, grievances, catastrophes, etc. And because of this, we, as feeling people who exist in and of world, respond with our feelings and emotions.
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Why should we internalize the problems and have ourselves and reactions be the cause of them, when really, they are simply one small effect of them? By being feeling people, we can ache for the world and those feelings can motivate us to do better by and for the world.
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Don’t deny your feelings or belittle them by labeling them, and in-turn yourself, as messy. They are feelings caused by a messy world. Are they uncomfortable, chaotic, even turbulent at times? Certainly. But that doesn’t make you messy. It simply makes you human. Embrace it, feel it, accept yourself and your feelings, and then embrace the messy world and do all that you can to make it a gentler, kinder place.
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The power and magic in this quote lies solely in your unique hands and actions. What you decide and then put into action, defines and shapes your life. You have control of how you make your choices and how you go about developing your existence. How heady and wondrous is that?!
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Now, for as cool as this is, it can also be intimidating (trust me, I get it!). I’m sure thoughts like “What if I screw it up?” or “What if I make a wrong or bad decision?” or “Am I even capable of making such a good choice/life?”. Hell, I know there are times this notion can cause a meltdown or paralysis.
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I’ve been there. I’ve done that. I’ve thought it all and then some. But you know what? There is no true right or wrong. There is no real way to mess up so long as you are working from a genuine place within yourself. Seriously, so long as you are coming from a place of honesty and integrity (and they both can grow and change within you as you grow and change) you can’t fail. You can change. You can grow. You can discover that by making one choice at a time, one simple change here, another there, you will create and have that totally different life.
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I’ve struggled with this my entire life and each time I surrender the what-ifs and let go of the fear and doubts, I find that I am doing exactly that. I’m making that one decision and shifting myself into that totally different life that I so desire. By tuning into myself, I am able to move towards all that I want and by cultivating myself, I’m cultivating my life. It only takes one decision at a time and before you know it, a totally different life is yours. We’ve got this!
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This is an excerpt from Monday Mantra 226 ~ To read the rest or to discover even more #motivationalquote delight check out the #highvibe Monday Mantra feature on my blog http://lawhimsy.com 🌼
There are plenty of reason to apologize. While the examples are rather endless, the reasons for apologizing are fairly straightforward. You apologize if you’ve caused pain to someone – intentionally or inadvertently. You apologize if you’ve caused someone an inconvenience or added difficulty. You apologize if you’ve insulted someone – whether you meant to or not. You apologize if you’re at fault in some way.
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However, your feelings are not something to apologize for. It doesn’t matter how your feelings make someone else feel – they are your’s and not to be apologized for in any way. Actually, if your feelings, for example, hurt someone else’s feelings, you don’t apologize. They aren’t apologizing for theirs, are they? No. You can have a discussion about both sets of feelings which could lead to an apology, but apologizing for the feelings is not necessary.
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It’s almost a foreign concept, this notion that feelings are not to be apologized for. Your feelings are your own, plain and simple. How you feel about anything at any given time is your own and nobody else’s.
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Yes, we are co-existing creatures and therefore are aware of other’s feelings (or at least we should be). That doesn’t mean we can dictate or demand certain feelings from others and then get all bent out of shape when we don’t get it. Yet that is how society tells us that feelings should be. We should be happy because of this or unhappy because of that or fearful or excited or whatever just because of one preconceived notion or other.
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We are all unique and our feelings are part of that. How we react, how we feel, is diverse and cannot be sorted into neatly organized, predictable sections. Feelings are personal to the soul who is experiencing them. To apologize for feeling is tantamount to apologizing for simply existing and that is utter nonsense.
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I refuse to apologize for my feelings and if someone else can’t or won’t accept that, well, that is theirs to deal with. My feelings are valid, just as your feelings are valid. And if we each of us choose to not apologize for them or expect anyone else to apologize for them maybe we could start creating a softer, safer world of understanding...cont...
