“Despite how open, peaceful, and loving you attempt to be, people can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves. This is the heart of clarity.” Matt Kahn
Others may never meet themselves as deeply as you meet yourself…
“Despite how open, peaceful, and loving you attempt to be, people can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves. This is the heart of clarity.“
You do your very best to be an open, peaceful, loving, kind person to others and yet somehow you still come up lacking that in-return, or worse, you feel taken advantage of, used or neglectfully disregardful. And. It. SUCKS.
There is good news, though, and that is that it isn’t you. You are not the cause or the issue here. The issue lies in the fact that other people can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves. But what does this truth mean? And how can this clarity be, well, clear to you?
To start, people relate to people by how they relate to themselves. This is often a subconscious action and it is not an inherently bad one, per say. It becomes more negative than positive when the person is coming from a shallow, non-reflective, inner=perspective lacking place. In other words, a person can only meet you as deeply as they they meet themselves and quite often that’s not a very deep place.
The same can be applied to yourself. You can, in turn, only meet another person as deeply as you’ve met yourself. Sometimes you might be coming from a more superficial place and that’s all the further you’ll go and that’s okay, especially if you are aware of it. The more in-touch you are with yourself, the deeper you are meeting yourself and that is key to self-awareness and growth.
To discover and foster your best you, you must go into your own depths. As you do this you will naturally begin to meet others on a a deeper level, but only if they too are meeting themselves at their depths.This is where the idea of finding and having a tribe comes from – an affinity and kinship with those who are working on the same kinds of internal and external wavelengths. A meeting of mutual depth and understanding.
That said, it doesn’t mater how open, peaceful, and loving you are to others if they are not meeting themselves as deeply as you are meeting yourself. If they are not being open, peaceful and loving to themselves, they won’t respond to yours – in fact they will do things like take it from you, leaving you feeling used, or mock and scorn it, leaving you feel dejected and hurting. By being aware of this, you can avoid the fallout and protect yourself. Thus why this knowledge is the heart of clarity.
In the end, what matter most is that you meet yourself deeply and you remain open, peaceful and loving for yourself. Others can only meet you as deeply as they’ve chosen to meet themselves and so long as you remember that, you can keep yourself soft and sacred and safe. Do not let those who remain in their shallows to rule your truths – they matter not in your bigger picture. Keep your clarity and your strength and those who’ve meet themselves deeply will meet you too and together we will all rise, unbeatable, for it.
Namaste ~ Ella
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Lawhimsy 
I SO needed to hear this today. You can’t even imagine how close it hit to home for me at this time. Thank you.