“When you finally learn that your behavior has more to do with your own internal struggle than others, you learn grace.” ~ Ella Patrice
More often than not it’s not about others, it’s about you…
“When you finally learn that your behavior has more to do with your own internal struggle than others, you learn grace.”
As we go through our lives we have constant interactions with others. Often times these interactions are good or neutral ones that leave you feeling fine. Sometimes though the other person’s behavior can leave you feeling ruffled, upset, and poorly. It’s awful.
It’s also incredibly easy to internalize this kind of interaction and make it about the other person. Whether you make it about something they did or a way they behaved that created the upset or view it as an unfair behavior on the other person’s part, you are still victimizing yourself. That is certainly no good.
To be the victim is to create an excuse and disempower yourself. When you do this, you allow the other person to control your behavior and reactions sometimes unknowingly. Often this includes the feelings of helplessness and even defeat, since it’s all based upon assumption and reactive emotions. It’s truly a terrible cycle that can keep you spiraling each time you encounter another who’s behavior triggers you.
The real lesson in this comes from realizing that your own behavior has more to do with your own internal struggles than with the other person. Just as another person’s behavior has more to do with their internal struggles than with you.
Think about it – more often than not when another person’s behavior seems out of sorts, reactive or even ruffling to you, odds are actually fairly good that it has nothing truly personal to do with you. Perhaps they inadvertently triggered something in you or they innocently did something that hit a button just so in you – it was unintentional and has to do with you, not them. They were simply the cause to your effect, nothing more.
The more you can realize this and apply it to your own reaction, the more grace and kindness you can extend both to yourself and to the other person. The more you do this, more able you are to move past such encounters with ease and without the same amount of inner upset and discord.
Yes, this is a mirror post to Monday Mantra 294 because it’s a truth that works both ways. We all of us are facing our own struggles and wounds and the more we can understand this, the more we can allow space for our own healing and for other’s healing as well. By realizing these twin truths we can begin to open ourselves up to true, meaningful healing and we can begin to forge a better understanding of our fellow humans. While we might always be triggered by certain things, the more we face and understand the “whys” the better we will become at dealing with them. This is the path to wellness, prosperity, and joy and to a better YOU.
Namaste ~ Ella
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