There is little more exhausting than the notion of perfection…
“I’d rather be honest and authentic and disappoint some people than to exhaust myself trying to keep up the façade of perfection.”
What is perfection but an idea of some state of idealism that is all but impossible to achieve, let alone maintain? In all actuality, there is no true perfect anything since everyone and everything is on a constant state of flux. Add to that the very idea of perfection always lies in the eye of the beholder, so to speak, and you have a very unattainable goal.
Yet we are often encouraged to create a false sense of perfection for ourselves, our images, our “brands”. Social media is basically a full-scale facade of perfectionism. On the whole, it’s a house of lies and bright, shiny fakeness disguised as perfect “real life”.
Perfectionism is exhaustion and it is about as far from honesty and authenticity as you can get.
When you are being honest and authentic to who and what your are, you are admitting to the fact that you are not perfect. You mess up, you make mistakes, you can be chaotic and nuanced and you are highly unique in how you approach things and do things and exist.
In truth, perfect is boring and rarely fun and striving for it even less so. When you relax and ease up on yourself and actively choose to embrace the flaws and less than absolutely peerless goals, you get to enjoy so much. By allowing yourself to be, well, yourself, “failings” and all, you get to be real. No facades, no falsities, no lies to keep up.
It can be difficult to even fathom beginning to be honest and authentic, especially in this virtual world of ours. I mean we all go with the facade of perfect to keep from being rejected or ridiculed or hurt, and yet when we do we usually end up hurting ourselves with the heaviness of the front we create.
I know that I definitely prefer to be honest and authentic about who I am and let those who may be disappointed be disappointed because at the end of the day I’m not here to seek out the approval of everyone, only myself. While I have fallen prey to worrying about presenting a perfect facade, especially on Instagram, I do my best to simply be me and let everything else work out as it may. I feel so much better when I do just let the perfectionism go and let freedom and ease reign.
To let those “perfect” walls down is to become vulnerable, however, there is strength in this vulnerability. When you let your true self shine, you embrace and give voice to your unique power. It’s true you may disappoint some people, but perhaps they just aren’t your people. And you know what, that’s okay. Your people will arrive and they are so much more likely to when they know who you really are.
I hope you let go of that need for perfect and embrace the awesomeness of who you are, messiness and all!
Namaste ~ Ella
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